Well, I don't know much about that but i do know that your better off without him and its his loss and it sucks though for your son because i know what he's probably going through why his fathers not there and what did he do its not his fault or yours he just sucks but as far as i can see(or read lol) your doing a GREAT job and thanks for the advice that you left on my page will try it Thanks again
L8TR, InvisibleOne [InvisibleOne]
i don't know what state you're in, but FOC sounds like it might be michigan. i know when i lived there, FOC meant friend of the court. so, anyway....FOC should be able to garnish his wages for back child support. if he tries to contest it, he'll be denied. you might want to contact FOC, and ask about wage garnishment. when i lived in michigan, my now ex-wife, her ex-boyfriend had his wages garnished by FOC for back child support. so, my ex-wife was getting a check every week. plus, her ex was also giving her a little extra in addition to the check.[ShipMan7]
someone once told me that if you have a child, expect to raise it alone. i think it's bullsh*t. i didn't crawl on top of myself and get myself pregnant. not that i'm a single mother, i'm married, i just wish my husband would participate a little more. anyways, back to you. go to court, and get the support you deserve. and keep going back until you get the money. and if he misses a couple of payments, take him back to court and make sure he gets held in contempt of court. have his accounts frozen. have it taken right out of his paycheck. do what you gotta do. it's expensive to raise a child, and yours shouldn't have to go without because your ex figures you have a good enough paying job. hope all goes well for you.[nbriggs]
OK, first take a deep breath. Then stop enabling him, keep going back to court and get the support ! I was in your place at one time and then I went back to court and I said "you know if their father would take them sometimes I would not even ask for support" Well the court ordered the father to take them every week, I dont have to provide cloths for the visitation and everything is 50/50. Sure he makes more than me, but just seeing him deal with my boys is enough.
I know it is only a matter of time when my ex will get sick of the boys. But im there security, stability and the one they know will always be here.
The hardest thing a parent needs to do is walk away. You dont have to stop fighting for support. But you do need to stop communicating with him unless something seriously happens to your son that he needs to know about. If your ordered to give him visitation, hold him to it. Take the time for yourself and let him see you move on. Right now he knows he can sweet talk you...you know the saying keep your friends close but your enemies closer.
